Greetings, Abby My husband and his ex-wife continue to communicate. Feeling remorseful, he paid her a hefty divorce settlement. She provided for him during his time in medical school, and he feels obligated to assist her whenever she needed money.
She didn’t ask for it the previous time, but he handed her a sizable sum of money after learning via his sister that she had filed for bankruptcy. I told him no when he expressed his desire to do it. I would have agreed if it had been for a medical purpose, but it’s not. After a few days, he told me he had visited her home and given her a check when I inquired whether he was still considering the proposal.
He is aware of how much this irritated me. He offered me three options: I could get a divorce, he would give me the same sum of money, or I could be satisfied that we could help her. Are they apples to your liking? Despite my affection for him, my husband treats people too well. This time, I’m just not sure, but he gives me anything I ask for—which I don’t. He did confess his love for me, but he had to assist her. How should I proceed? — CURRENT TEXAS WIFE
Greetings, wife: You should be grateful that your husband can afford to be so giving if you truly love him. However, given that Texas is a community property state, you might want to speak with an attorney if you believe that his generosity has somehow let you down.
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