Greetings, Abby The town where I reside is quite little. I’ve felt like some of these folks are upset with me ever since my husband passed away a year ago. I experienced what my therapist referred to as a nervous breakdown six months following his passing. I can’t recall much of what I did or said, and I know that for a while I wasn’t myself. I’ve been accused of using foul language and saying hurtful things to close friends. This took place over perhaps three days.
What I stated will not be revealed to me by my buddies. These women are part of my card club, and I believe I cursed at them and said or did some terrible things. I haven’t been able to convey how sad I am about it. I’ve tried, but nobody is willing to tell me what went wrong. They inform others, and those others haven’t been cordial ever since. I was warned that I would not be permitted to return to the club after being ejected.
Could you please suggest some ways I might get my friends to want to hang out with me again? I need help since I’m miserable. — IOWA OUTCAST
Greetings, Outcast You must be quite unhappy. In that social group, the women abandoned you. Were any of them ever informed that you were receiving psychotherapy following your husband’s death because you experienced a psychiatric breakdown? Shame on them if they were aware of it and were unable to comprehend or pardon your reaction.
You will need to find companionship elsewhere since you cannot make someone be understanding and nice enough to clarify what you were saying when you weren’t yourself. You could start by talking to your religious advisor in that little town.
P.S. I wonder if the women aren’t talking to you because of what you said to them when you weren’t yourself.
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