TO ERIC: I’ve known one of my friends since third grade. She’s from a different state. I just traveled to the state where this friend resides with three of my other pals. Although she has strong opinions and comes across as a bit strong, she is a very excellent friend.
She asked if she might join us because we were nearby. My other friends were really kind and said it was okay, but I felt awkward asking whether she could come. It was alright.
My three friends and I are now organizing a trip for the spring, and this friend expressed her want to return when she overheard us conversing. I don’t want to cause any more embarrassing situations for my other buddies. How should I respond to this circumstance?
A Minor Conundrum
Greetings, dilemma: Respectfully, it sounds more like you would be bothered by her accompanying you than your friends would be. And it’s all right. Certain acquaintances are only appropriate in specific circumstances.
It’s also a bit arrogant of her to invite herself on your upcoming trip, to be honest. However, it’s possible that she is lonely and is making a brave move to address it. That’s okay; that’s human.
However, since you have a similar past and style, it’s a good idea to tell her straight out that you’d rather go on the trip with these other pals if you feel uneasy about her joining. Make suggestions for other methods to stay in touch with your third-grade pal. Perhaps you’re going to see her, or you’re taking another vacation together.
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