TO ANNIE: I met with a prospective employer while my daughter was little, and they inquired about my family. When I informed him I had a two-year-old, he remarked something that has stuck with me ever since: His girls were grown, and he was most happy when he spoke to them as adults and realized he had brought up two wonderful ladies. I know exactly what he meant now that I’m seventy-five.
When our daughter left for graduate school eight hours away from home, it was even more difficult than when she left for college, which was four hours away. We only saw her a few weekends a year, and I knew from having a Ph.D. how time-consuming her studies would be. However, it was worthwhile. She lives only 25 miles away and has a successful profession today. It’s both tiresome and thrilling to have her own two young girls over for sleepovers every few weekends.
My wife and I have become even closer since we retired, and we have had the opportunity to travel and enjoy this phase of our lives together. I wouldn’t give the memories we’ve created or the four incredible ladies in my life—my wife, my daughter, and my two granddaughters—for anything.
Developing your children’s independence, enjoying their individuality, and starting your own life may be the greatest achievements of all. Do you not think? — Thankful, Grandpa
DEAR THANKFUL: I greatly appreciate you sharing your letter. Being grateful is a wonderful trait that helps us in all phases of life. Your statements are the ideal illustration of how it causes us to refocus our attention from what we lack to what we value.
You are well aware of the blessings in your life, including your wife’s affection, your daughter’s success, and your granddaughters’ happiness. Such a viewpoint is not only endearing, but also motivating. Our relationships are strengthened, our disappointments are lessened, and we are able to find meaning in both the setbacks and the victories when we are grateful.
Your narrative serves as a reminder that the benefits of love, family, and introspection endure throughout change and distance in life. We appreciate you reminding us to cherish the people and the situations that make life so full of meaning.
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